Wednesday, 23rd of April

An excerpt from the article, “‘Bikini Bodies’ & The Ugh of Swimsuit Season”

"For years, I dreaded the arrival of spring magazines, knowing they’d be filled with pages of flirty, colorful and teeny bikinis fitted to fat-free model bodies. I was a girl with cellulite, Beyonce thighs (when she’s eating her favorite southern dishes, that is) and a tum that more than coquettishly peeped over the waistband of any bikini bottom. Well into my 20s, my beach uniform was always a one-piece, usually topped by an oversized T-shirt or tank top and shorts. I hated that moment when everyone sat down and disrobed, casually eyeing how the others looked nearly-naked, our brains registering a comparison to the culture’s ideal. The pressure of exposing my body in public was enough to convince even a sun- and sand-lover like me to stay on the cement.

 I had an epiphany at 27, when I decided to say “f— it” and wear a size-16 bikini. Proudly. Publicly. I called myself a “body outlaw” and held my head high. Hey world, here’s a body you don’t usually see in a swimsuit. Get used to it.

 Oddly, the biggest revelation was that NOBODY CARED. How liberating: I’d wasted so many years imprisoned by shame and fear of being ridiculed, when I could have been out frolicing in my dimple-thighed, two-piece glory.

Granted, the bikini had boy shorts and a generously-cut top. And I was at a southern Pennsylvania water park, not on a St.-Tropez yacht rocking a thong with the “glitterati” (who made up that word, anyway?). But for the ten years since then, I’ve publicly worn bikinis while ranging from size 10 to 16, and have encouraged people to challenge the idea that only certain body types have the right to bare arms…and legs, and thighs, and stomachs.

What kind of body is a “bikini body”? The enlightened answer: any kind that wants to be.”

Tuesday, 22nd of April
❝ You need to learn how to select your thoughts just the same way you select your clothes every day. This is a power you can cultivate. If you want to control things in your life so bad, work on the mind. That’s the only thing you should be trying to control. ❞
—— Elizabeth Gilbert  (via valentinesparks)
Saturday, 19th of April
❝ Forgive the past. It is over. Learn from it and let go. People are constantly changing and growing. Do not cling to a limited, disconnected, negative image of a person in the past. See that person now. Your relationship is always alive and changing. ❞
—— Brian L. Weiss, Messages from the Masters: Tapping into the Power of Love (via quotes-shape-us)
Friday, 18th of April
Thursday, 17th of April


A little table to how to get rid of all that negative self-talk. We have to learn look at the good in situations too, instead of dwelling on things we can’t change- because you know what? We may not be able to change what is happening but we CAN change how we view it! 

Wednesday, 16th of April


You can be happy now. Being thin does not = happiness. Embrace who you are. 

Wednesday, 16th of April

Day after day, by your words, your actions, and your thoughts, you have chosen your own path. And that path has brought you to precisely where you are.

Now it is time to choose again. Remember that with each and every choice you make, you determine the details of how your life will proceed.

It is a serious responsibility as well as a wonderful, enormous opportunity. For again and again, you can choose your way toward the life you truly wish to live

—— Ralph Marston (via runtowardsyourfear)
Wednesday, 16th of April

Have you ever been in a funk?

Definition of a (funk): To be sad, moody, stressed, unhappy, negative for A) No reason B) For multiple reasons C) For reasons you don’t know or understand. 

I’ve been in a funk the past few days. It’s just this gloomy, no energy, low spirited funk. The kind of funk that makes you want to eat your feelings, lie in bed with Netflix, and avoid people. I haven’t felt like this in a while. I haven’t cried like this in a while. And it’s unsettling because I used to have days like this all the time when I was really depressed. 

I don’t like feeling this way, but I know all of this is from stress. So I tell myself that these negative feelings are waves. I imagine these feelings as waves because I like to think they wash over me. I choose not to internalize these feelings or thoughts because they’re not who I am. Feelings aren’t always logical, and the ones I have now don’t reflect the kind of person I am or my future or what my body actually looks like. I think that’s important to remember. We don’t always have to analyze our feelings or ruminate about our sadness. Sometimes, life happens, we feel stressed, and we take a couple of mental health days to recover. Mental health days are like self care days. Isolating yourself, eating your feelings, and letting negativity consume you isn’t self care. BUT taking time for yourself, treating yourself to a nice meal, letting yourself experience negative emotions is healthy. You can feel negative emotions and accept them as part of your experience, but choose not to internalize them. 

So what have I done? I spent time alone, journaled, watched my TV shows, ate a lot of ice cream, took lots of naps, and “wasted” time on tumblr. I also went grocery shopping with a friend, called my sister and talked about positive things, had dinner with a friend even though all I wanted to do was stay in bed, wrote letters to my best friends, cried on the phone with my mother, and left the house to go to class. As much as I want to be alone when I feel bad, I also know how valuable it is to be with others and receive love and support.  

If you’re in a funk, don’t fight it or internalize it. Observe your thoughts and feelings as if they’re “visitors” that have come into your life, perhaps unexpectedly. They will leave. They may overstay their welcome, but they will leave, and you will be okay. Take as many self care days as you need. Remember to reach out and spend time with people who can make you laugh and support you when you cry. It’s tempting to stay home alone and keep to yourself (I know this feeling all too well), but sometimes the best way to get through a funk is spending time with others and doing things you love. 

What are some things you do to get through a funk? 

Tuesday, 15th of April

Literally everything I’ve ever criticized about myself…Today, I am going to send my body love and appreciation. 

Saturday, 12th of April
Sunday, 6th of April

What will you gain when you lose?

Well, Special K, I gained self-confidence
when I lost the first 10 pounds.

I gained an addiction when I lost
the next thirty.

I gained the horrid feeling deep in my
empty stomach when I started to lose my hair.

When I finally reached recovery,
I gained the confidence to lose my eating disorder.
I no longer judge my worth in proportion to my weight.

—— Michelle K., Dear Special K. (via michellekpoems)
Saturday, 5th of April


Wednesday, 2nd of April
❝ Feelings are just visitors. Let them come and go. ❞
—— Mooji 
Wednesday, 2nd of April

What to do when you “feel” fat

  1. Recognize that you’re feeling shitty. That’s okay. 
  2. You’re not feeling too hot about your body. That’s okay. 
  3. Think about what’s ACTUALLY making you feel shitty. 
  4. Figured it out? Good. Now you don’t have to project your negative feelings and thoughts onto your body. 
  5. Think about what you can do to address your feelings in a healthy way, like calling a friend, doing yoga, writing it down, listening to happy music, treating yourself to a nice bath or meal. 
  6. But wait, you still feel shitty about your body. That’s okay. 
  7. Go stand in front of the mirror, if you’re not there already. 
  8. Even if the next few things sound ridiculous and unhelpful, let me just say, they worked for me (with time). 
  9. Stand in front of the mirror, take a deep breath, and hug yourself. 
  10. As you hug yourself, smile your most genuine smile, even if it starts off a little tense and unnatural. 
  11. Now look at your reflection, keep hugging yourself and say, “You are beautiful.”
  12. Continue the hugging as you say, “You are worthy and good enough.”
  13. Do not let go as you say, “You’re feeling shitty about your body, but that doesn’t mean it’s shitty, or that you are a shitty person.”
  14. Place your hands on the parts of yourself that need more love. (I tend to touch my stomach and thighs.)
  15. Now with your hands placed, stare straight in the mirror and say, “I am not perfect, but that’s okay. I’m human and I am more than my body.” 
  16. Give yourself one final hug, one last genuine smile, and say what you would say to a friend that needed your support and love. 
  17. Do a quick, goofy dance in front of the mirror, preferably one that is very embarrassing and will make you laugh out loud. 
  18. Repeat steps 9 - 17 until you start feeling better. 
  19. Go on with your day. Maybe even use your talents and passions to do wonderful things in the world. 
  20. Because that’s what you’re here for. Not for your body or for the money you make or for making everyone else happy. You’re here to be YOU. The world needs YOU. 

*Positive affirmations are powerful. If negative comments can bring you down, positive comments can just as well bring you up! Practice positive self talk. Be your own best friend. Treat yourself kindly.*

Wednesday, 2nd of April