Day after day, by your words, your actions, and your thoughts, you have chosen your own path. And that path has brought you to precisely where you are.
Now it is time to choose again. Remember that with each and every choice you make, you determine the details of how your life will proceed.
It is a serious responsibility as well as a wonderful, enormous opportunity. For again and again, you can choose your way toward the life you truly wish to live❞
Definition of a (funk): To be sad, moody, stressed, unhappy, negative for A) No reason B) For multiple reasons C) For reasons you don’t know or understand.
I’ve been in a funk the past few days. It’s just this gloomy, no energy, low spirited funk. The kind of funk that makes you want to eat your feelings, lie in bed with Netflix, and avoid people. I haven’t felt like this in a while. I haven’t cried like this in a while. And it’s unsettling because I used to have days like this all the time when I was really depressed.
I don’t like feeling this way, but I know all of this is from stress. So I tell myself that these negative feelings are waves. I imagine these feelings as waves because I like to think they wash over me. I choose not to internalize these feelings or thoughts because they’re not who I am. Feelings aren’t always logical, and the ones I have now don’t reflect the kind of person I am or my future or what my body actually looks like. I think that’s important to remember. We don’t always have to analyze our feelings or ruminate about our sadness. Sometimes, life happens, we feel stressed, and we take a couple of mental health days to recover. Mental health days are like self care days. Isolating yourself, eating your feelings, and letting negativity consume you isn’t self care. BUT taking time for yourself, treating yourself to a nice meal, letting yourself experience negative emotions is healthy. You can feel negative emotions and accept them as part of your experience, but choose not to internalize them.
So what have I done? I spent time alone, journaled, watched my TV shows, ate a lot of ice cream, took lots of naps, and “wasted” time on tumblr. I also went grocery shopping with a friend, called my sister and talked about positive things, had dinner with a friend even though all I wanted to do was stay in bed, wrote letters to my best friends, cried on the phone with my mother, and left the house to go to class. As much as I want to be alone when I feel bad, I also know how valuable it is to be with others and receive love and support.
If you’re in a funk, don’t fight it or internalize it. Observe your thoughts and feelings as if they’re “visitors” that have come into your life, perhaps unexpectedly. They will leave. They may overstay their welcome, but they will leave, and you will be okay. Take as many self care days as you need. Remember to reach out and spend time with people who can make you laugh and support you when you cry. It’s tempting to stay home alone and keep to yourself (I know this feeling all too well), but sometimes the best way to get through a funk is spending time with others and doing things you love.
What are some things you do to get through a funk?
What will you gain when you lose?
Well, Special K, I gained self-confidence
when I lost the first 10 pounds.
I gained an addiction when I lost
the next thirty.
I gained the horrid feeling deep in my
empty stomach when I started to lose my hair.
When I finally reached recovery,
I gained the confidence to lose my eating disorder.
I no longer judge my worth in proportion to my weight.
*Positive affirmations are powerful. If negative comments can bring you down, positive comments can just as well bring you up! Practice positive self talk. Be your own best friend. Treat yourself kindly.*
a friendly reminder:
don’t hang out with people that make you feel bad about yourself
If you cheat on a partner, you’re guilty. If you cheat on a test, you’re guilty. If you cheat in a game, you’re guilty. Applying the same logic, if you cheat on a meal, you’re made to feel guilty. Cheating elicits negative emotions because you’re doing something wrong. There’s nothing positive about that word. And isn’t that what we’re all trying to get away from? The negative ideas that make us feel bad about ourselves?
You’re not cheating by having ice cream or pizza. You’re not out of control or being devious or bad for not following your meal plan or eating something that’s not considered “clean” or “unprocessed” or “healthy.” There’s no such thing as a cheat meal when it comes to food. You’re being a human being. And human beings have these things called taste buds and appetites and cravings and meal preferences. Shocker, I know.
Honor your hunger and tell yourself it’s okay to want to eat a bag of chips now and then. It’s okay to have french fries. If you have to tell yourself it’s okay as you eat, do it! The key is moderation and we are ALL capable of that. If you’re having trouble with that, message me and I’ll give you some tips!