You are enough.
Paint it on your mirrors,
on the back of your eyelids,
drown it in your stomach,
sing it in every word you say.
You are never too much.
Eat your food,
sleep eight hours,
walk like you love yourself.
You are enough.
Say it in your sleep,
mantras to carry you through your day.
There is never enough of you.
You are a thirst that is never quenched.
I crave you when you’re away.
I love every piece of you.
But I cannot make you love yourself.
Repeat after me:
I am beautiful. I am good enough. I am enough. I am more than enough. I am worth it. I am valued. I am not my flaws or insecurities. I am not my pain or defeat. I am not my doubts or fears. I am strong. I am imperfect. I am empowered. I am loved. I am okay. I am going to be okay. I am not just my body. I am a beautiful human being and I deserve to be here.
People need to be encouraged. People need to be reminded of how wonderful they are. People need to be believed in—told that they are brave and smart and capable of accomplishing all the dreams they dream and more. Remind each other of this.
A comfort zone is a beautiful place, but nothing ever grows there.
My sister sent this article to me and I thought I’d share with all of you. Fitspiration is often considered the “better” and “healthier” option for motivation (compared to thinspiration), but it’s important to examine the potentially harmful messages these images are sending us. The article addresses the “inspirational” words on different fitspo images and how that motivation might be the OPPOSITE of what it’s championing - HEALTH. I suggest reading the full article (click on the title), but here are some quotes that stood out to me. Remember, being healthy is GREAT and I am all for it. But living out a healthy lifestyle is completely different if you’re doing so with an unhealthy mindset. Mental health is equally, if not more, important as physical health.
“This is an expertly lit, no doubt digitally enhanced image of a girl in her mid-twenties presented here as the definition of what a woman is allowed to be proud of; “until you are proud” seems to mean “until you have six pack abs, perky, squeezable breasts and the terrible burden of finding size 0 jeans with a 34 inch inseam”. If there were a male equivalent of this photo, it would have to be Iron Man to really capture the shocking lack of realism.”
"So, no, obsession is not the same as dedication and creating a vocabulary that makes it easier for the mentally ill to cloak their illness in normalcy is not doing anyone any favors."
"The trick is to know your limits. Pain is helpful in this regard. Of course, there’s pain and there’s pain, but part of being healthy is knowing the difference. Training so hard as to induce vomiting and uncontrollable sobbing is to slowly undermine the basic human judgement of what constitutes challenge versus what causes injury; It’s a fundamental component of self-control. Toddlers learn it when they figure out that they don’t need to cry over skinned knees but that a broken arm is a big deal.”
"Now, before I get bombarded with angry comments from skinny people, I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with being skinny. I’m also not suggesting that being skinny and strong are mutually exclusive. I’m only pointing out that strength onlysellswhen it’ssexyand, make no mistake, advertisers want very badly to make you feel like you are currently failing at both.
Strong isn’t really replacing skinny; being skinny is no longer enough. Now, ladies, you need to be skinny and ripped. It’s an additional layer of self-loathing (perfectly suited for hypergymnasiacs), just in case people had started to get desensitized to the omnipresent and psychologically crippling display of corpse-thin women in the media.”
"Change is cool. Change is healthy. The desire to change stems from the admirable ability to introspect and see that, currently, we are limited in ways that we want not to be. If that desire to change, however, becomes a desire to change at all costs, you will be sorely disappointed with what you end up paying. Work out, have fun, get tired, fail occasionally, wake up sore and set your next goal. Whatever you do, just don’t do it like these poor suckers.”
You start feeling good about yourself once you stop equating beauty with a number and someone else’s body as the ideal.