All the external adoration, respect and adulation in the word, can’t drown out the internal voices that tell us, we are not good enough and unworthy of; happiness, love and an abundant life. When we need others to tell us were amazing, worthy and lovable, in order to feel good about ourselves, it is never enough. It goes into the bottomless pit where our inherent self-worth should be. It may feel like we are reaching out to receive love, but in actuality, we are seeking external noise to help drown out our negative core beliefs.
Love blossoms from the inside out. That is why it is so important to do the work necessary to heal our emotional wounds, to love ourselves and stand strong in who we are. Only then, are we truly free to give and receive love, unconditionally and in abundance.❞
If you lie on the ground in complete silence and place your hand over your heart, you can feel your heart beat softly against your palm.
And I swear, it is the most humbling experience you will ever have with your body.
When you’re healing from past wounds and emotional scars, from toxic people and experiences or staggering insecurities, there’s one thing you should know: Healing will not look the way you want it to.
Your healed self will not look like the idealized version in your mind of the “new and improved” you. It may be filled with more relapses than life changing epiphanies or sudden breakthroughs. It may take longer or shorter. It may make you feel whole and excited for what’s to come or completely lost as if you can’t function without the struggle. It may involve several people or just one. You might be able to say, I’m healed now, or you might have no freaking idea if anything’s working or what that even means.Maybe it means therapy or medication. Maybe it doesn’t. It won’t look like your friend’s or your family’s or the examples in self help books and online support forums. There is no certainty in the process other than that you will heal. You will. There is no doubt about this.
Healing takes place when you get rid of the agenda, the timeline, the expectations and external pressures to please and participate in the world as you think you should. Take a deep breath and let it go. All of it. Let go of your expectations. There’s no need for any of that.
Imagine a bruise on your body. It’s tender, sore, and if you keep hitting the same spot, it won’t heal. In fact, it’ll get worse. Treat your own healing process the same. Don’t inflict any more pain on what’s already damaged, be gentle with the sore and tender spots of your heart and mind. If your self esteem is damaged, how will it heal if you’re treating it like a punching bag, beating it down with negative, critical comments? If your body image is damaged, how will it heal if you’re comparing yourself to your friends or scrolling through thinspo blogs every chance you get?
This is not about what you can achieve or who you can become. It’s about YOU recognizing that you’re good enough now. And letting yourself recognize this more and more every day until you start to live and breathe each day believing that you are good enough. That you deserve to feel good about yourself now. That the difficult times, the fears, the mistakes, the insecurities, the addictions, all of that deserves your acceptance because they’re a part of you. They just don’t define you.
Because within you is a tremendous amount of love and joy and strength and it’s not something you need to find anywhere else. It’s been with you all along. So claim it. Let the healing take its course.